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Discussion

This will be the place for us to discuss issues affecting tall women and how we can overcome our daily challenges. These discussions are also intended to build confidence among tall young women who have not come to terms with the idea that being tall is beautiful. Together we can all impact one another in a positive manner! So ladies I encourage you to get involved in the discussions or contact me with important issues that you feel should be discussed.

1. Do you view your height as a hindrance or a blessing?

12 Comments

  • Reply Aleatha March 14, 2015 at 2:33 am

    I didn’t know how to handle my height when I was younger. I was awkward and very self conscious. It was a negative attribute and I always tried to hide it. Those years were really difficult.

    As an adult I learned to use my wit and humor and in my late 20’s I finally grew into myself. This has been a blessing as my youngest is already 6’6″ at 15 years old. I have been able to lead by example and help him accept himself as the unique person he is.

    I still rely heavily on wit and humor to cope with the occasional escaped mental patient who treats me like a freak show. I rarely have moments of “I should have said…”

    At this point in my life it is part of who I am and it’s a blessing.

    • Reply Shirley March 22, 2015 at 1:17 am

      It’s unfortunate that some individuals can go out of their way to hurt another individual based on appearance. Growing up, sports was a major distraction that I’ll forever be grateful for. It’s wonderful to know you view your height as a blessing and you can now be a source of motivation for your son. Thanks for your input Aleatha!

  • Reply marcia March 14, 2015 at 3:29 pm

    I see it as both. Now, mostly a blessing, as a 12 year old and nearly 6’2, a hindrance. I am grateful for the lessons learned, and supportive communities that did not exist so many years ago.

    • Reply Shirley March 22, 2015 at 1:25 am

      Well stated, as those lessons better prepare us to be strong supportive women in our society today. Thanks Marcia for sharing!

  • Reply Meredith Sasser March 14, 2015 at 3:35 pm

    My grandmother was 6ft 1in. She was ostracized because of her gift. She was miserablem

    • Reply Shirley March 22, 2015 at 1:53 am

      I can’t even attempt to imagine the limitations that existed during the earlier generations. Being tall in our society today can come with it’s challenges, but in time I believe these challenges will alter with increased self-acceptance. Thanks for your input Meredith!

  • Reply Cathy J Rogers March 14, 2015 at 11:09 pm

    I view my height as a blessing. There are certain things I can do whereas a shorter person cannot. I can reach for objects which may be out of reach from others. When wiping down cabinets in the kitchen I can just reach up and wipe them off without the worry and hassle of grabbing a stool. At the store there are so many elderly shorter individuals who do have issues reaching for items. I will simply reach it for them. Being tall also has given me a bigger bone structure. I can handle heavier objects whereas others may not be able to handle very well.

    My height never bothered me until that one day while walking home from Junior High School; I sensed a group of teenage girls behind me. They were bullies; threatening me and literally scaring the crap out of me. But I kept walking, picking up my pace to get further away from them by using one of my given gifts, my long legs, all the while ignoring them. Bullies hate to be ignored. Why? They do not get the satisfaction when they are being ignored. I walked into my house like nothing ever happened. I mentioned to my mom about the girls who were bothering me all the way home from school when my mom noticed white spray paint all over the back of my only winter coat. Imagine wearing a winter blazer coat and the sleeves hit just at the top of the watch you are wearing on your wrist. Well, that is where these sleeves reached to, except I never wore a watch at that age. This winter coat was the only one I had, and it was ruined. I could not stay out of school so the next day my mom and I reported this incident to the school officials. From that moment on, I learned that there were detectives and they made sure I was able to walk home from school safely. These bullies were eventually caught. Several years ago I met up with one of these bullies and she had the need to apologize to me for the wrong doing she did to me that day. She said that she is not really sure why she did it. It surely must have bothered her because she apologized to me after all those years. I asked if she was happy to have cleared her conscience.

    During my teenage years and into early adulthood, I used to hear jokes from the men/guys how they would love to have my legs wrapped around them. Really guys? Is that all they see in a tall woman? It surely will not be my legs around your body! The men who think that way are slim in my book.

    One stipulation to marrying my husband was that he will never, ever complain as to how much money I spend on clothes. As long as we both agreed to this, I saw no reason why we could not marry. Being tall has its disadvantages. Tall clothes could become very costly.

    My dad always told me to stand up straight and to be proud of my height. My mom too reminded me of this because as you get older who would want to look at a hump back. I learned early on never to slouch. It will give you a hunch back in your older years. My dad swore that if he saw me slouching, he would place a broom behind my back to strengthen me up. He never needed to. I always stood tall. They gave me great advice.

    I was born tall, am I tall, and I love being tall.

    • Reply Shirley March 22, 2015 at 4:34 am

      I’m truly touched and inspired by your empowering story. Bullying will always exist simply for the sad fact that some individuals will always have hatred in their hearts. You were definitely blessed to have such a supportive family growing up; that always reminded you of the importance to demonstrate the confidence needed to stand tall no matter the circumstance. You couldn’t have said this any better “I was born tall, am I tall, and I love being tall”, thanks for sharing your story Cathy.

  • Reply Hilary March 16, 2015 at 5:07 am

    Most of my problems being a tall woman come from men. Short men. My brother in law, after his own wedding, asked me, “What does every woman want in a man?” I answered, “Respect.” He said, “No, they want a man that is taller than them.”

    I know that all women, regardless of height, will think about the need to be respected by a man. However, a tall woman has a unique perspective: Most men look at her and the first thing they notice is her potential power and strength. And that is a threat to misogynistic man. So the tall woman will act normally and the man will be defensive, overly assertive, and offer put downs.

    A tall woman can spot a misogynist man a mile away.

    Yes, I am tall. I am loud. I am assertive. I am outspoken. I also have not one insecure man in my life who I would call a friend. I can’t help but think that all of that goes together.

    • Reply Shirley March 22, 2015 at 4:39 am

      Unfortunately, some of the ongoing issues are originated from the stigma men have formulated about tall women. In one of my readings, it stated a high percentage of men found tall women to be either unattractive or too intimidating. It’s extremely over-joying that women have become more supportive of one another as a routine for self-healing and self-strengthening.

  • Reply Hilary March 16, 2015 at 5:09 am

    I forgot to add….I view it as an AMAZING blessing.

    • Reply Shirley March 22, 2015 at 4:42 am

      Thank you for the great contribution Hilary!

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